How to use your own social network and other online accounts…
Here's where the temptation is greatest. You're connected up to all your friends on Facebook and Twitter and where not… Surely there is no reason to hold back on your negative comments about your work, your boss, your colleague who said this really stupid thing and got into trouble…
At the end of the day, it's much easier to get perspective on this if you imagine that we don't have social networks and that you have to stand up in the middle of the office and talk about it in front of them all. Would you do that? Probably not… well, here's the problem in a nutshell… stuff that you say, however secure and safe it feels at the time, has a nasty habit of finding it's way into the world at large.
There's a good chance it's going to end up somewhere you wouldn't want it to " and it's never phrased the same way when it gets there!
If you have a piece of information (gossip normally) that is soooo great you just can't hang onto it… you're going to post it on Facebook aren't you? Of course, it's only natural! But if you remember the Friends episode where Ross sleeps with the copy shop girl and Joey suggests he makes sure there's no trail back to Rachel… of course there is! With social media, you have no idea where your trails go at all.
If you are going to talk about your work, your boss or your colleague in a negative way, then you have to accept that there will be consequences. Maybe not now, but if you do it often enough, you're going to lose respect.
Before you do it, ask yourself a simple question… "If I post this, is it something that I would be happy to go up to that person and say to their face?" If no, then my suggestion is to leave it alone. Ok, you might have a reputation as providing the best dirt in the world… but at what cost – none of the people who read your dirt have any respect for you – they might like you and find it funny, but if the stuff hits the fan, all of those "friends" will be out of the door quicker than you can say "help me…"
Having struggled all my life with confidence and self-esteem, I spent several years getting over it. I now have the privilege of helping really nice people stop getting walked all over and start living a life free from self-doubt, worry and fear. I write confidence articles over on my website.
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